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[luciusad2004]

So i recently moved away from home and got a job at the local walmart. Everything has been going well enough i suppose, but my school work really suffered. Last semester i made deans list and this semester I'm worried about keeping my scholarships. As much as i hate to say this, I'm considering moving back in w/ my family because it would ease my burden and then i could just find a small part time job to make a little bit of spending money and not have to work as many hours. The problem is, I sort of feel like moving back in w/ my parents would make me a failure. What do you guys think? Would it bad to move back in or are my school grades more important than my dignity?

[xRyokenx]

Dude, you're not in your late 20s to early 30s and still living with mom without a job or having taken any college classes. You are not a failure, lol. If you need to move back in with them, then do it. ;)

[Quakken]

Getting a good education is more important than dignity. It's not like you are 40 and still living with them, 19 and still living with them and getting a good education is good thing. It would take less burden off of you and you would be able to learn to your full extent.

[chaksq]

By all means move in with your parents. I assume they won't mind and it's more important to do good in school than have a low level job. You aren't a failure for moving back home. In fact I feel that shows you know how to make a mature decision.

[jdbnsn]

I'm not qualified to advise on this. I'm 32, and still haven't figured out how to take care of myself and moving home isn't an option anymore. All I can say is good luck either way you decide.

[Crimson Sky]

heck, does your parents have another spare room? I'll move in too. Times are tough, take all the help you can get until the economy gets better.

[Omega]

If you don't ask them, the answer is always no...

I say that your well being is more important than your dignity. I'd rather live with my parents and have no dignity than live in a crack house and have it. So you haven't become completely independent yet. Big deal. You're not that old anyways.

If they're nice enough to let you move back in, do it.

[crenn]

If you're parents are happy to let you back, then I see no problem. Just beware it's their house and their rules.

[blueonblack]

Dignity is a personal thing. I think in my case I would have no trouble keeping my dignity if I moved back in with my parents, simply because of the reason I did it. It's not like you HAVE to move back in with them, you are looking toward your future and that, my friend, is nothing to feel undignified about.
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[XcOM]

look at it this way,

I moved out for 6 months, and i admit i failed, Got myself into debit and stuff, I asked my parents if i could move back in with them.

I moved back and finished my uni work, and to be honest i feel proud that i had the sence to move back in with my parents to make sure i got a good educiation, its nothing to be ashamed about.

With my mum & dads help i have moved out and now live with a friend about 150 miles away, i have now been living away from my family for about 3 years now,

Also the people you can always bank on being proud of you is your parents,


In my opinion i would say move back, get a part time job, get your education and then look at moving out when you will be better setup to do so.

[b4i7]

i was in the same boat as xcom...i moved out for a couple months, coming to realize i couldnt handle school, work and taking care of my own needs/bills all at teh same time

there is no shame in living at home

[Crimson Sky]

Just beware it's their house and their rules.

The most important comment said so far...show plenty of respect and it will make it that much easier.

[luciusad2004]

Thanks for the advice guys. Ill probably move back in if i can find a decent part time gig up around their place. I'm not a troublesome kid so i shouldn't have a problem playing buy their rules... as long as those rules don't limit net access; THEN we would have a problem :lick:. They have been telling me i could come back since i left so i know they won't have a problem w/ it. Thanks guys. :)

As a side note, the place belongs to my mum's bf's parents (yeah, my parent's are having a hard time too, so they live w/ their parents... long story short, lawyers and ex-wives can cost a lot of money.), and they have a work shop, so maybe ill finally get a chance to do some Modding, though the workshop is geared mostly towards wood so i don't know what i could do w/ it.

[simon275]

Just move back in and avoid all the hassle.

[blueonblack]

though the workshop is geared mostly towards wood so i don't know what i could do w/ it.

You'll be surprised. My shop is entirely geared toward wood. Most power tools are very versatile things. :)
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