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BuzzKillington
04-22-2009, 10:58 PM
Well I'll start from the beginning... sorta.

As some of you may know, my mom has a low-life, toothless leech of a boyfriend.

You may remember a while back me getting kicked out of my house because I got in a fight with him when I got on camera him going through my room. I then moved in with my girlfriend, living in a tiny room, we eventually broke up and I was forced to move back in with my mom. My gf and I got back together but she lives at home and I live at my Hell.

To recap, this guy looks like a bum. Literally. Not just a homeless person that lost their house and was forced to the streets... I could tell you this guy was raised on street rats and I bet you'd believe me. He spread his alcoholism to my mom which had an incredible effect on her... if only I could show you a before and after of not only her looks but her personality.

So I lived in my room for a couple months. By this I mean I would try my hardest to avoid any contact with my mom and her parasite.

Over the 9 months or so he's been here he has completely trashed the place! I mean turned it into sanford & sons... He got a free motorhome that is junk. He has a isuzu tracker that was painted with spray paint that is peeling off and has a ducktaped window. He bought another POS beater toyota pickup. He brought a streetbike he had and put it in the backyard behind the shed where it rots along with some old rusted up tool boxes. He brought pieces of a fake rock pond and put them in the back yard (not hooked up mind you... not sitting upright either.) He literally has about 50 of your walmart junk car speakers lining 3 walls in what was my workout room (stacked on top of one another... ya..) He filled the spare bedroom with more JUNK. And what was the cherry on the cake for this winner, the act that started this story was him setting up a car port thing in the middle of our driveway. I should have got a picture but it was the trashiest thing I've seen in a long time although I think the speakers may have it beat. The way our driveway is set up is the left side goes down to a gate that opens to the backyard and garage. it's wide enough for 2 cars to fit side by side, maybe 2 cars deep and still have some breathing room. Well, this canopy could only fit one car but took up enough room to ruin the other parking spot. It was trashy!

Anyway, I can go on and on about this guy so to cut it short, the landlord is fed up and made him take that canopy down and now wants him to get rid of the vehicles since they are eyesores. My moms boyfriend isn't man enough to say "oh damn, I'm about to make you lose the house... I'll get rid of them!" No... he has a fit and TELLS my mom they're moving so he can hang on to his junk that rots in the yard. They want to buy this dilapidated (ex-meth lab)house right next to the mexican border, in Campo. More JUNK. This is about 45 minutes from work, maybe farther depending on traffic. They offered to let me move in to their shack with illegals running through the back yard which would cost me about 100 dollars in gas a week. Guess how much I've been making every week lately? About 95 dollars! Yep, hours were cut from 40 hours to 25 to 16 to sometimes as low as 8. Did I mention I'm paid bi-weekly?

Needless to say, the only way I could live would be to crash at a friends or live in my car. My girlfriend said she would never let that happen but the last time this happened, it didn't end well. Two people being crammed in 9x10 room that work totally different hours doesn't jive to say the least. Not to mention I wouldn't want to bring her down because of my own problems.

All in all I may be screwed. I've been looking for better paying jobs but in order to make it on my own in California I'd need to be making at least 15 dollars and hour/full time (that's without security money, cable and interent and living in extremely dangerous neighborhoods for a 20 year old white guy) which is unrealistic unless I could find a job in construction which is literally impossible at the moment. I'm trying to get into the Air Force but I still need a few college credits before they will take me. By then there's a chance to be put in a delayed entry program which puts my military career on hold even longer which means trying to scrape by will be even harder.

Basically, does anyone know of any jobs or ways to make money that would still make it possible to sleep and have time for school to hold me off for 6 months or so?

Eclecticos
04-22-2009, 11:14 PM
You should try to find in customer service or something. . they are always looking for new people, and it is real easy if you already know how to work the computer which you obviously do. The best thing I could say I guess is don't let it bother you, just get done what you have to do and smile while your doing it.

SgtM
04-22-2009, 11:20 PM
I'm not sure I understand everything about the Air Force. They take high school grads.. why would they want you to have college credits? I can't really help with anything else, and really feel bad about your situation. I would go talk to the recruiter, tell him that you want to leave NOW. I'm sure there's something he can do. You'll have the opportunity to finish college on active duty, and the best thing is it's 100% TA now.

BuzzKillington
04-22-2009, 11:25 PM
My recruiter didn't like that I graduated from a home school. Less than 2% of high school grads get into the Air Force without at least one semester of college credits.

Zephik
04-22-2009, 11:28 PM
I'm not sure I understand everything about the Air Force. They take high school grads.. why would they want you to have college credits? I can't really help with anything else, and really feel bad about your situation. I would go talk to the recruiter, tell him that you want to leave NOW. I'm sure there's something he can do. You'll have the opportunity to finish college on active duty, and the best thing is it's 100% TA now.

Thats what I was thinking too. My best friend joined the National Guard basically right out of high school. Maybe the Air Force is different I guess. **ah, so the air force is a bit pickier than the other branches. Thats both understandable and unfortunate. Have you considered signing up for any of the other branches of military? Although if all you have is 6 months before you can make it happen, its probably worth toughing it out until then.

Anyways, I would say get a second job anywhere you can and pretty much just make work your life until you can do something about it. Most of my friends have had to do that at some point or another. It sucks, but its doable and it should help you at least keep a roof over your head and what-not. ...but then there is school to still worry about. damn. What a fitting thread title. Well, I would try talking to one of the school representatives or whatever and ask them if there is anyway to make having two jobs while still achieving the necessary credits possible. or maybe try finding someone who needs a room mate or something like that.

In any case, sorry to hear about your whole situation. I can't even imagine how rough that must be. Its like, what can you do? Well, thats legal anyways. Try to hang in there man, hope you can find out how to make this life work for you sooner than later.

NightrainSrt4
04-23-2009, 12:01 PM
I know what it's like to have your mom love someone like that, if not worse. My father was a drunk abusive druggie who leeched all my mums money. He beat me, before I got out of that place young, and she always turned a blind eye to whatever he was doing. Got my 20 year old brother out of there back in September and just two weeks later he snapped and stabbed both my other brother and my mother repeatedly, and punctured her lungs and whatnot. There both better now, but she still questions if he got out of jail if she would take him back, and says part of her will always love him.

You can't change a person once they've decided who they love, even if you would never chose that person for them, and even if they wouldn't. The best thing to do, take this from experience, is get out however you can and work as hard as you can to get your life set. It will be tough, and you will probably just scrape by. They may resent you, at least they tend to, but you've got to know you are doing what's best for you. You can't change their situation even if you want to.

And then just keep your head up, keep pushing forward, and let the dice fall as they may.

Bopher
04-23-2009, 10:23 PM
My recruiter didn't like that I graduated from a home school. Less than 2% of high school grads get into the Air Force without at least one semester of college credits.

I was going to go straight into the Air Force out of high school. But I didn't get to finish so it never happened. I went to the Air Force web site and found this while I was waiting for the live chat to start:

***You must meet these basic requirements to join the US Air Force. To QUALIFY for the US Air Force you must: Be a US citizen or have valid unrestricted alien registration card from the USCIS with at least 2 years remaining until expiration (You must obtain this status on your own, the Air Force cannot assist you with obtaining it), Be between the ages of 17-27 (enlistment) upto 35 (officer commissioning) upto 48 (healthcare professionals), Be a high school graduate, Have parental consent if age 17, Be of good health and moral character, Meet our height and weight requirements, reference link Height/Weight Chart***

To me that says if you hold an accredited high school diploma he can't stop you from going in now. They work on numbers so if he doesn't want to expedite you in then I would find another recruiter. If you go to the Air Forec website you could us live chat to talk to someone in recruiting and find out if it can be moved fast if your recruiter doesn't want to help you. Good luck with this.