How to ask a girl to prom..modders style

[Aero]

Hey everyone, I havn't been around here much as of late. I've had alot of studying to do, aswell as scholarships to apply for, and now I'm working on getting a job. But in between all this work I need some fun. And well, prom is coming up. So I have already picked out a girl to ask, but I'm haveing trouble thinking up a good way to ask her out.

I'm interested in seeing what a bunch of hardcore modders can come up with. My friend is setting up a marqe sign to ask his girlfriend. I've already deicded the writeing it out it flames on her lawn might be a bit extravagant, and the flame could be a hefty fine...and the subsequent arrest might be a problem.

[The Black Pumpkin]

Give her a computer case with the words asking her on the side? Just a quickie...

[DaJe]

Or etch it into acrylic and install some LEDs to light up the words.

[xRyokenx]

Make her a case (or buy or whatever) and paint it in the style of a tuxedo or something...

[Zephik]

Go up to her, look her in the eyes and just ask her. But be careful to show no fear! THEY CAN SMELL IT! If they do sense fear, they will spontaneously combust and turn into a fairie NEVER TO BE SEEN AGAIN! ...they are tricky lil creatures those girls....

You could do a fun lil game or something. Like a treasure hunt, and then at the end of the treasure hunt is a teddy bear holding a card that says "will you go to prom with me?" Of course, make sure she isn't taken first. lol

Maybe not "modders" style. But it seems to work for me more often than not.

[Crimson Sky]

slip her a cheapo USB key with a pic of kittens (chics dig the furry) and some text across it asking her to the prom.


http://www.whippersnapperdesigns.com/images/EY828C.JPG

[intergalacticman]

make a huge poster professing your love on her garage with your number on it

[cajun_duck]

I have to agree with SnowFire. She's a girl, so you want to do something sweet. The best way to ask her is to just ask her. Have confidence and be straight forward and honest. Remember, you are asking her to prom, not an E3 or anything. Before her wedding day, this is one of the biggest days in her life.

[Ichbin]

Just say...."If you go to prom with me, ill let you touch my dremel after"


^.^

[tybrenis]

How about this...

First you walk up to her.

Then, you ask her if she wants to go to prom w/ you.

...thats it.

[Aero]

thanks for everything guys. I'm going to think about it now while I drive to pep boys...good ol' pep boys.

[SgtM]

How about this...

First you walk up to her.

Then, you ask her if she wants to go to prom w/ you.

...thats it.

Seconded.

[XcOM]

Seconded.

3rd'd

[moojoe]

I asked my girlfriend about this, and she's probably one of the geekiest people I've ever met.
She said to just ask her, dont do anything fancy, just ask her, be honest, and dont show any fear.
Prom is a big deal, and no matter how geeky the girl is, prom is bigger then most other things in the world, at least at that age. you cant really turn prom into something geeky, it will just ruin it.

[SgtM]

you cant really turn prom into something geeky, it will just ruin it.

Thinking about that.. You could get a pinstripe on your tux, but the stripes could be 1's and 0's.

[Ichbin]

My prom sucked. A LOT. I was with a girl that was over-controlling, and the girl i did like didnt go :(

[CanaBalistic]

Thats youtube film was probly the most demented thing i've seen in a long time. If you take any advice from that, you'd better be prepared to land a girl with an adams apple...

If you really want to get with this chick, here's what ya do:

Go ask your dad how he landed your mom in the sac. You might want to reword it better than that. There is no romance in todays youth. You need old skool romance tricks. Chicks go for that like flys on ****. Perhaps, read a romance novel. She probly reads them religiously. Girls only want guys with good skills.

If that doesnt get you the girl, remember, you have to slay a few dragons before you get to the princess. Go ask a bunch of ugly fat chicks to the prom. If you can line up a fugly girl to take on a fake date, you'll have no problem asking the one you realy want to take to prom.

[Aero]

Ok, so what I'mk thinking is I will ask her to have coffee, and our local Caribou coffee has a public chalkboard. I can write "Will you goto prom with me" on it and make her look at it with a movie quote that I have choosen (she loves movies).

But heres a funny and odd set of circumstances. So I call her and she hangs up right away. I wait 15 seconds and try calling her back, but her phone is off. So I'm confused, but she calls back in 5 minutes and apparently she was in a doctors appointment and there was a no cell phone sign. When her phone rang the doctor gave her a really evil look. I tell her I'm sorry and say I had the same thing happen to me once. Then I ask her to get coffee sometime, but apparently her mom had surgery today. She wants to stay at home for the next few days and take care of her. Which is completely understandable because I've done the same thing before...but still... >_<

So now my friend came up with the idea of painting "PROM?" on the hood of my car and driving to her house. I think its an ok idea. It does have the "cute factor" but I don't want to be like I'm dropping this on her because it seems she has alot going on right now.

Now to reply to posts:

First off Crimson, my friend read that and nearly spit mountian dew on my laptop. (chics do dig the furry)

Secondly


Remember, you are asking her to prom, not an E3 or anything

I nearly fell over laughing from that. But its true.

Thirdly

Minty, from what I got I think your suggesting I turn gay and take up crossdressing.


And thanks to everyone for posting. Just because I didn't say anything to you directly you all help...some were just a bug "DON'T DO THIS" but other were good :p. PLUS REP TO ALL!

[daavvee]

when you go round have a bunch of flowers for her mum ready,
good luck!

[PiGMaN]

Just walk up to her an ask her.
Dont try to be kool or act like a hero ...just ask dude ...geezzzzzzzz

[danthegeek]

I dont know if you know the girl well or not. If you do then you can do something sweet and lovey like a card, flowers, etc. If you dont know her well you want to follow a few tips.

Tip #1 Dont do anything that would scare the **** out of her. This includes acting like a stalker. (calling alot, going to her house uninvited, -you get the drift)

Tip #2 Dont do anything fancy

Tip #3 Dont act like you are proposing.

Tip #4 Make sure she feels like she wants to go with you, not like she has too.

Tip #5 Do not bring flowers on a first date but dont show up to prom if you forgot them....Understand??

Tip #5 THE MOST IMPORTANT= Life is not like the movies, try to be her friend before you become anything more.

Good Luck

[DaveW]

(chics dig the furry)

:| Suddenly glad i'm not American. :p



Tip #1 Dont do anything that would scare the **** out of her. This includes acting like a stalker. (calling alot, going to her house uninvited, -you get the drift)

Tip #2 Dont do anything fancy

Tip #3 Dont act like you are proposing.

Tip #4 Make sure she feels like she wants to go with you, not like she has too.

Tip #5 Do not bring flowers on a first date but dont show up to prom if you forgot them....Understand??

Tip #5 THE MOST IMPORTANT= Life is not like the movies, try to be her friend before you become anything more.

You got two tip 5's there bro. ;) But overall, whoever said show no fear, i think that's pretty much the most important one here.

-Dave

[GT40_GearHead]

oh, and don't be arrogant, or a smart ass

I don't think you are but I'm a doing my duty

but the #1 tip is to be RELAXED and confident( go to the gym and get your testosterone up :D )

[AJ@PR]

Hey Aero...

Did you ask her out yet?

I'm here, trying to come up with a nice Action Plan, but there are too many open questions.

Who is she, to you?
Is she a friend?
Close friend?
Just a girl that goes to high-school with you?
Are you two in the same social group, or each of you has their own 'group'?
Is she the same age as you? Same grade?


Just to see if I can try and help you out with the rest of us. :)

Best Aero,

-AJ@PR

[Aero]

Wow, thanks guys. Danthegeek, thanks for the tips. I'll remember them. I was already trying to avoid anything major, and was going to just ask her in conversation, but I nearly got my head bit off by all my friends for that. They said "do something big". I don't want to do anything "big", but I wanted to do something that screams "me".

Now, AJ@PR, Who is she. She is the long time best friend of a formerly good friend of mine [crazy high school drama, actually if you remember my topic about my friend who started smoking way back when, this is the "friend of hers" I talked to about her problem, we both had those moments where we were surprised the other person had said the stuff they did(in a good way)..its hard to explain]. Anyway, I haven't talked with her that much, but when I have I noticed we had more in common than I had thought. She not what I would call a "close friend" hence the trying not to do anything too big that would make her feel strange or out of place. As far as the "social group" goes, we are not in the same group, but there not much seperating our groups. I'm that guy that no body dislikes, so I can fit in just about anywhere, but my other (good) friends are not the same. But I don't care, simply put no one in her "group" is against me asking her. finally she is 1 year younger than I (shes 17 I'm 18 next week), and she is a junior, I'm a senior.


edit: haha, I'd give out more reps to those in this topic but apparently I've hit my 24 hour limit :p.

[AJ@PR]

^^^ Ok, I'm @ work.. but I'll take that, process it inside my brain, and I'll post back ASAP. :)

Chillz buddy... you're going with her to the prom. :)

[Aero]

^^^ Ok, I'm @ work.. but I'll take that, process it inside my brain, and I'll post back ASAP. :)

Chillz buddy... you're going with her to the prom. :)

haha, thanks AJ, just don't get in trouble at work

and for no reason here is a dancing banana :banana:

[Drew]

Strut.

But don't over strut.

If you know what I mean.......

No.1 word from all this?

CONFIDENCE.

Good luck dude.

[Ticien]

If you know her well Aero, just ask her. If you guys are already connected on a friend level, trying to impress her is going to make you seem like a weirdo. When I went to prom, I didn't know who to ask, and so I just picked the hottest girl I knew. I used to give her rides home from school and one day I just said "Hey, do you want to go to prom with me?", and she said yes. It isn't rocket science, and while mostly true as dan says, life is not the movies...though 90% of people wish it was. (basically I am saying a liiiittle bit of "cinematic flair" will make her think shes in a fairy tale, pretending your James Bond will get you a restraining order...get my drift?) It's prom. Not a marriage proposal. It is an important day in the life of every teenager, but the event is much, much more extravagant than popping the question needs to be. Just be yourself, and worry about being sharp when you go pick her up before the dance.

And most of all as everyone has said, confidence is a virtue when asking a woman out. Always be confident. Being nervous or hesitating makes it seem like you are unsure of yourself, no matter how much you want that date.

[xRyokenx]

From what I've been seeing and learning, all you need to do is be friends, and just make it casual, or no big deal... and word it good, like I haven't in the past :neutral: but yeah, I'll try to learn from this, as I usually do... now to go find people worth having as friends. *runs off for no particular reason*

[danthegeek]

I have one more sugestion.. Be carful how you use the tips. You could end up stuck with the same girl for 3 1/2 years with plans to get married within the next few years.... Uhhhh. Not that that is a bad thing.. (I hope my girlfriend isnt reading this)

Edit: Not to hijack but the way I asked my girlfriend out was a little strange. First off we talked for a few months (yes months) and became good friends. Then we went out a few times (the movies, etc.) and seemed to have a good time. We then went ice skating one friday and I fell. Blood was all over my face, jacket, and ice from my newly split eye brow. So I went and cleaned my self up a bit, went back to her and asked her out (I think she said es in simpathy) and drove myself to the hospital. Now three and a half years later and were both 20, we plan on getting married once out of college.

Long story short= If she matters to you then take your time.

[xRyokenx]

Yeah, depending on who it is, it could be awesome, or flat out horrible...

[slytherock]

Prom is nice, it's kind of old memories now, but I ended mine with 3 girls... anyway, as most said: go straight (not too fast) and ask her... and remember to wear clothes...

[Aero]

anyway, as most said: go straight (not too fast) and ask her... and remember to wear clothes...

Are you speaking from experience about the clothes?

[slytherock]

lol :D
no, it was maybe one of the only advices that was not mentionned. and it sounded funny ;)

[GT40_GearHead]

it's kind of old memories now, but I ended mine with 3 girls

you pervert ! lol joking :D:D:D: :bannana:

[fuzzyfuzion]

This is all great advise, but in the end you have to do what's right for you. In reality, if you can't be you for her, and ask her your way with your words, it's a sham. Just talk to her, and you'll know what's right and when and all that other stuff. Be true to you. :)

[Aero]

Hey guys. Again, I want to thank you guys for all the great advice. This is why I love TBCS, were like one big dysfunctional family:santa: .

Anyway, I thought I would tell you guys the news.


The sadening news.

Today I found out that she got asked by someone else and has made plans already. Most likely in the time since I last talked to her. SO thats not gonna happen.

And well, that has added to alot of other news that I have gotten from my parents that makes me one unhappy extremely stressed out camper. It sucks how things very rarely go right for me.. although I'm sure you all have stories too, just seems like I'm always getting the short end of the stick.

Well, before this becomes a rant on all thats wrong with my life, thanks again for the help everyone.

MOD ON!!:smoker:

[xRyokenx]

Hey man, I've had really bad experiences socially too, you're not the only one with a screwed up life. Hell, if anything, she's a good friend, right? You can be there for her and she'll be there for you. I'd rather have a really good friend and keep them for life than lose them in a relationship that may fail (not saying that it would). Try to look at the positives... I do, but hell, something happened recently that really sucked, but then I realized, hey, I like being home more anyway, and I get to work more now, so I no longer have to get up at 6... I'd explain more, but I don't feel like it...

[Aero]

Hell, if anything, she's a good friend, right? You can be there for her and she'll be there for you. I'd rather have a really good friend and keep them for life than lose them in a relationship that may fail (not saying that it would).


thats just it. She not. And I've lost about 2/3 of my really "close" friends in the past few months. I too would rather have a good friend than a bad relationship. But, I guess thats life. You've just got to roll with the punches. Thanks again.

[Spacehonkey]

Today I found out that she got asked by someone else and has made plans already. Most likely in the time since I last talked to her. SO thats not gonna happen.

Yeah look on the bright side now you don't have to stress out about how you're going to act around her during the prom and whether or not she's into you. Now if you want you can go stag and party like a rock star afterwards. Who knows she might see how much fun you’re having and wish she went with you. That's what I did and the parties were killer. To make you fell better I sat at the same table as my x-girlfriend and her new boyfriend. Just remember to role with the punches and party till you pass out. Hopefully you’ll have a few good buddies with you to turn you on your side so you don’t choke on your own puke.:p

[xRyokenx]

Yeah, and if worst comes to worst, you always have us here as your friends. :D

But it most likely won't get to the "worst," it will pick back up again, and soon too... I've lost people I thought were good friends recently... but they were apparently fakes anyway... anything can happen, for all you know, she might not like the guy she's made plans with in the end. Just keep looking up, I have a couple friends from way back when, and we still talk, and I'm hopefully going to be visiting one this summer as he lives about half a country away...

[AJ@PR]

Yikes man...
I didn't post because... to be honest, I don't think you really needed help.

Ok, dealing with the situation:::
There's nothing bad with what happened.

You say you 'found out' that she already got asked.
Excellent!

Go. Yourself. Ask her. Directly. If she has already been asked to the prom.

Word it just like that.
Aero: Hey! Did somebody invite you to our prom already?
Babe: Yes/No/Beautiful the fishies!
Aero: Aww... cool! :) Cause *I* was going to invite you to come along...

If she already made a compromise with somebody else, fine.

I was once speaking with a friend of mine that modeled for some years.
He had a very cool outlook on decisions from the 'castings'.
If you're not picked in a casting for a project, it isn't against *you*.
You're just not what they were looking for.
I mean, if they're looking for a short, skinny, blonde, tanned guy... and you're the opposite of that... it isn't compatible.

Take that same thought and apply it liberally to all sorts of things.

Do you still want to go with her?
Or you want to go with another person?

I suggest you ask her directly... then you can crunch whatever needs to be done.

In any case, I strongly urge you to GO and ask HER DIRECTLY if she's gotten invited.
Then, (do NOT skip this step!), TELL her explicitly that you had planned on inviting her.

What do you have to loose?!
She's already going with someone else... so, what the heck.

This will firmly plant in her brain that you're interested in her.
Good thing. Good.

[Aero]

Yikes man...
I didn't post because... to be honest, I don't think you really needed help.

Ok, dealing with the situation:::
There's nothing bad with what happened.

You say you 'found out' that she already got asked.
Excellent!

Go. Yourself. Ask her. Directly. If she has already been asked to the prom.

Word it just like that.
Aero: Hey! Did somebody invite you to our prom already?
Babe: Yes/No/Beautiful the fishies!
Aero: Aww... cool! :) Cause *I* was going to invite you to come along...

If she already made a compromise with somebody else, fine.

I was once speaking with a friend of mine that modeled for some years.
He had a very cool outlook on decisions from the 'castings'.
If you're not picked in a casting for a project, it isn't against *you*.
You're just not what they were looking for.
I mean, if they're looking for a short, skinny, blonde, tanned guy... and you're the opposite of that... it isn't compatible.

Take that same thought and apply it liberally to all sorts of things.

Do you still want to go with her?
Or you want to go with another person?

I suggest you ask her directly... then you can crunch whatever needs to be done.

In any case, I strongly urge you to GO and ask HER DIRECTLY if she's gotten invited.
Then, (do NOT skip this step!), TELL her explicitly that you had planned on inviting her.

What do you have to loose?!
She's already going with someone else... so, what the heck.

This will firmly plant in her brain that you're interested in her.
Good thing. Good.


haha, ya know. Thats kind of what I was thinking about. I just drove around with a mutual friend and was talking about her. Apparently only 4 people hknow she was even asked, and about 3/4 of those were rooting for me :p. Anyways, the way I see it, its not like I asked her and got turned down. I just didn't get to her in time (despite my pathetic attempt). So I was thinking of the same thing. I've already asked her if she wanted to have coffee or something sometime this week. I'll just bring it upto her then "Hey, do you know what you'r doing for prom yet?". *enter response here* "Oh, ok. *upset/shocked tone* That sounds like fun,. hope you enjoy it."

I was worried she just hated me for some reason, but my friend said that she had been saying things like "I miss ____", or "We should do something with ____ he was fun". Which really pisses me off that I didn't act sooner. But to be fair I first thought of asking her several months ago but did nothing to become better friends with her. I couldn't work up the courage to call her or try to get to know her better, and in the end, it was this reason that I didn't ask her sooner. I've learened from my mistake and will try harder next time. Also, I mostly saw this as a way to get to know her better and hangout with new people. I can still do that, just not centered around prom.



OH, meanwhile I've got to think about how to turn down a girl , who has liked me for a few years. Any tips on that one ;) (no, I don't like her)

[Spacehonkey]

OH, meanwhile I've got to think about how to turn down a girl , who has liked me for a few years. Any tips on that one ;) (no, I don't like her)

Just tell her man. It's better to tell her you have no interest in her more than friends. You don't want to string her along with a false sense of hope. Think about it what would you want a girl you liked to do or say to you if she wasn't interested in you?