I sorta kinda got xfce working. The crazy thing is... I wasn't trying to...
I was playing around on my Ibook in os x and i SSHed in to my PC. Well i read that you could run gui applications through ssh if you had the Xserver on the machine you were logged in from (OS X comes w/ an x11). Anyway. I shutdown the xserver on my pc and turned to my laptop. I typed sudo startx to see what would happen. Unfortunatly It did not do anything cool on my laptop but what it did do is start the xserver on my pc which loaded xfce.
Anyway, at least i now know that xfce still exists and is not busted. Now i just have to log out and see if i can get to xfce from the log in manager or if it only works when i start X from the command line.
Edit: Just used the logout button and Xfce logged out to command line. I can't do anything from here. I had to shut down through ssh. SSH is awesome.
Edit2: Just checkd, xfce does not work from the log in manager. At least I kinda have some more information about it now though.